A Happy Marriage

Hebrews 13:4a Marriage should be honored by all and the marriage bed kept pure: It seems that lately our Pastor at Church is very concerned about the State of marriage among the Christians in our Church. I came upon a list that was written by a Christian author about what makes a happy marriage. Here is the list: 1. God has you here to serve one another. Love acted out is serving. 2. Women need respect and nurturing. Love your wife so she knows you'd lay your life down for her. Continue to date her and admire her. Share a hobby-find something you can do to have fun together. 3. Laugh offen. 4. Be patient. Love crumbles quickley under the weight of unmet expectations. 5. Spend more time trying to fix yourself than your spouse. 6. Keep short accounts. "The Bible says, Do not let the sun go down while you are angry." Make it a habit to forgive. 7. Determine up front that divorce is not a option. 8.Learn about love languages. Not all people show love or receive it the same way. You want a back rub and your spouse wants a clean kitchen. The love languages are fairly simple: acts of service, time,physical touch, gifts and words of affirmation. Learn them. Love is better received when its in the language that person speaks. 9. Words of affirmation are a love language for all men. 10. Men are born to be leaders. He cannot lead unless she gives him the confidence to do so. If you love your husband, build him up. Confident men do not seek love outside the home. ( These then are the ten points that make up a good marriage). My husband and I will be married for 49 years in the fall and if you think these 49 years were easy I can tell you they were not. We had our highs and our lows, we had our valleys and our mountain tops and without God as our pilot we most likely would have not survived. Marriage is hard but also wonderful and it needs lots of work. I have to tell you that finding your spouse love language is a must. Mine is I like the physical, the touching and the hugging, my husband loves food (this is not a joke) and all I need to do is make something he really loves to eat and I touch his love language. I hope all of you benifit from this list. God bless all of you and a happy marriage to all